Alistair asked me to get him this 3 CD set of lectures for Christmas. I was a bit surprised as is rather work related for him, but I obliged. I have just had the chance to listen to them myself. Some time ago I had a tape of his which covered his involvment with Dr Carl Rogers and Dr Maslow and his apology for the immense damage their system has caused in both Catholic institutions and education. Dr Rogers nearly wrecked his life with his new values clarification system. The impact of the system certainly wrecked a lot of other people’s lives. In the end he saw he had created a monster, but sadly it was too late.
Dr Coulson, is now making it his life’s work I think to apologise for and try to undo some of the damage done when ‘client centred’ therapy was introduced and then ‘child centred’ education. He points out that in the early days many people who had agreed to take part in the experiement with the theory pulled out when they saw how destructive it was. ‘Normal’ people, Coulson says, saw what would happen if they allowed this dismantling of basic moral norms to go ahead.
As a psychi nurse I could see pretty quickly that the whole “warm, empathic, non-judgemental, unconditional positive regard” idea was simply a way of allowing patients to get away with not taking responsibility for their actions. It meant they had no reason to change.
The basis of the counselling, no matter what the client had done, or wanted to do, was that there was no such thing as ‘ought’ and that guilt was not a good thing. We could not ‘judge’ the actions of others, only they could say how it felt for them. “How does it feel for you?” as the question.
I think most of us knew it was silly and if used indiscriminately, dangerous. One of my clients informed me of her plans to murder her step-father. I was well aware how it ‘felt for her’ but that didn’t change the fact that she could not kill someone; it’s BAD as well as illegal.
You can read more HERE and HERE
I think the victim culture we live in is rooted in the Rogarian system. It is this basis that says we are simply what we are made to be-that we cannot rise above that and make an act of will to be better because we ‘ought’ to. If there is nothing good and all is relative, then why struggle to be good?
I hear so often those who assume that being abused means you will abuse; that being broken in some way means you have to brake others. RUBBISH!!
As Dr Ray points out in his book “Back to the Family” many people do rise above the abuse they suffered in childhood and become good, even ‘excellent’ parents. If someone who has been abused, beaten, lived with an alcholic parent or been passed from pillar to post can grow up and be a good parent…
Both Guarendi and Coulson believe there has been too much pychology in education and that it has massively undermined the rights and authority of parents, where schools now leave children with the idea they have a right to choose whatever they want to do, believe etc. Then these kids are wide open to the pressure from big business such as contracption, abortion, tobacco and alchohol.
There’s a lot to say about this. Get the CDs and any time you wish you could put your children in school-remember why you are glad you don’t.