In passing she commented on the way my children were playing together and how they get on well. I nodded, adding “most of the time.” She said her four daughters were also close and this had been greatly enhanced by removing them from school and having them educated and playing together so that they actually grew up together.
This isn’t the first time I’ve talked about how siblings grow together in a home education setting. More than one HE mother has talked of a change she has seen in her children once they are out of the separation imposed by school. Dare we suggest that actually being around their own brothers and sisters of different ages “socialises” them?
The way life works for most people means that however close we may have been to friends at school, they aren’t the people around in later life. For good families sibling support is very much part of life. Siblings who are used to sharing with one another and being together are surely more likely to be close into adulthood.
One thing Dr Ray Guarendi says is that as parents get older and less energetic it’s good to know that younger children have older siblings for all that rough and tumble. It’s also good to know that, if they are brought up together and share every day life together, that when they are adults they will be close and – I hope – will be there for each other.
But it’s more than that. The fact that they are around each other on a daily basis means they share, not just stuff but friendships and so their lives are not (artificially) separated in any way.
Their natural closeness is reassuring in a time when so many families have such terrible problems and when we too, as a family, face some tough times.