Category Archives: pro-life

Are more Catholic women ditching contraception in favour of real marriage and health?

“For forty years this generation wearied me, And I said their hearts are wondering and they do not know My ways; and I swore in My anger that they would never see My place of rest.” (Ps 95:10-11)

As families are torn apart by selfishness, divorce, and loneliness more and more women and couples are turning away from the generation of contraception and genuinely seeking God’s will in their lives. If what I am seeing is anything to go by, it isn’t just Catholic couples who are turning their noses up at drugs and surgery that breaks a healthy part of the body, and has damaged marriage so badly, that perhaps even the prophets of the inevitable didn’t see it coming.

No Christian church/community believed that contraception was in any way allowed until after the Church of England Lambeth Conference in 1930 were contraception was deemed allowable to a married couple in very extreme circumstances.

The wise and Spirit led Pope Pius XI immediately responded with Casti Connubii (1930) which reiterated, strongly, the 2000 year teaching of Christ and His Church. But the damage from England spread out and soon other churches were allowing contraception and more horribly Christians began to favour killing the unborn children who were conceived despite the contraceptive use.

By the time Pope John XXIII called the Second Vatican Council the state of families was already a concern. But it had nowhere near reached the depths we face now.

When the Cassandraesque prophecies of Pope Paul VI were published in Humanae Vitae in 1968, he was ignored or vilified.  It is with sadness and in many cases bitterness and anger that many (especially women) of my generation have learned he was right.

Most people my age in the Western Church didn’t get much catechesis in school or family life. We grew up with a set of Jesuses from “He can’t wait to send you to hell” Jesus to hippy-stoned- do-whatever-feels-good-Jesus; and a plethora of Jesuses in between. We were given, at best, mixed messages about sex and marriage and left to fend for ourselves.  For many that lead to chemical contraception with all its side effects both physically, emotionally and spiritually as well as broken relationships and complications in marriage.

And from what I can gather it wasn’t just Catholics getting out the golden calf religion. Other Christians were doing just as badly, if not worse than us.

But the generation is done and the next generation are growing up and they don’t want the deal my generation got. They want the Truth – all of it. As the Church is improving in getting her message across more and more couples, and particular women, are asking for a better deal in marriage, more respect for their/our bodies and more love and generosity in accepting and parenting our children.

Jennifer Fulwiler has written a lovely observation on all this. Some of the comments show the change in thought and the massive obstacles in moving from  the “contraceptive mentality” to open to life and God’s will in our lives. There are those who find any of the forms of Natural Family Planning very difficult. One person even found the Marquette method hard.

Personally I have to admit to some irritation (and surprise) that the best way of learning NFP for me has been from secular sources. Fertility which has a huge number of charts to be studied so you can learn to spot stuff on your own chart.  and the Toni Weschler book, Those are the resources I recommend when I’m helping someone chart.

We had some lessons from the Couple to Couple league as well which was a great help, especially as we were learning while I was breastfeeding!

A properly recorded NFP chart can tell you a whole lot about your health, or lack thereof. It will tell you when to catch that twinkle from God’s eye and when you can avoid doing so.

In a Christian marriage, child spacing should be done with prayer, not just with charts. The Church says we can avoid pregnancy for just reasons; which includes financial, emotional and physical health reasons. There is no church teaching that says a couple have to have as many children as possible no matter what. God isn’t nearly as stupid as some people want to think He is.

Having children is a massive responsibility and a joy; it should be a three way decision, God, husband and wife. Sometimes God gives a child even when you don’t think you’re ready, and sometimes He doesn’t give you one when you think you are ready and ask Him for one. Whatever He does He provides the grace required, you just have to accept and use it.

I think I’ll write a post on the health issues that charting can spot.


March for Life more and more people standing up for the sanctity of life!

The March for Life in the America has been an amazing sight. Thousands upon thousands of people have taken to the streets to demand a respect for the sanctity of human life from conception to natural death.  The Crescat has some great photos and all over the net there are reports from those who were there and those who wished they could be.

march-for-life-2013One of the great things about the internet is it can easily bypass the silence and self censorship of the mainstream media. They are losing the battle on life. Pretending the marches aren’t attended or ignoring them as they happen will no longer count for much. I get the sense the mainstream media’s influence is shrinking fast.

Forty years ago (a generation in Biblical terms) two court cases opened the floodgates to the wholesale slaughter of unborn people. This in turn blunted the sense of life so much that it is now fine to deny elderly people basic care and medication such as antibiotics; to starve and dehydrate people to death and to leave seriously ill people without basic care so that they and their families become so desperate they ask for assisted suicide.

We live in a world where health insurance companies in America will refuse tomarch-for-life-2013b pay for treatment but offer to pay for assisted suicide, because they deem it cheaper.

One of the wonderful things about the American people marching for life is that they still care enough, over the pond, to do this. I can’t imagine such a thing happening in dark apathetic Britain. Tiny embers still glow here, but those embers are tiny.

A new generation is emerging in America who are willing to stand up for what is right.


Abby Johnson has left the abortion industry and become pro-life. Her charity is to help others who wish to follow. It’s a brave step because those ex-workers 486064_559719124038165_2085612879_nlose their employment and are often less than welcomed into the pro-life community, who like the apostles after the conversion of Paul, are somewhat wary.

She has posted this picture of a tool used to grip the baby’s head and then pierce his/her skull. The grips stop the head floating free once it has been cut from the body. The fact that such tools are made is beyond vile; that they are used is not so much crying out to God but screaming out.

I am sure Dr Bernard Nathanson is praying for us all. He was a founding member of NARAL and the lies he told back then are still repeated in the media today. He has told the truth since then and spent the rest of his life fighting for life. He became a Catholic in 1996 and stood firm for life until his death in 2011.

As Christians we are not allowed to remain silent. It is laid on us as an obligation to speak out for justice and life.  Adam’s silence in the face of Satan’s attack on the woman brought about his own downfall. We will answer for silence.

You may be saying; I can’t march, what can I do?

For a lot of us it’s a matter of donating money, clothes, equipment and food to the crisis pregnancy centres and local parishes who do quiet outreach. Food donations for the elderly and sick. You might be able to help with respite or visiting someone. There are many families who offer a place to stay for girls in a terrible crisis pregnancy.

Something as simple as helping  a sick or disabled person navigate the dreadful benefits system by helping them fill out forms.

Join the St. Vincent dePaul (SVP) Society.

Do anything, so long as it’s not nothing.

Life and finding real answers; death and self service.

As the next 40 Days for Life approaches I’ve been thinking about how the culture of Life can change so many things. The record of 40 Days for Life is really impressive. Prayer, fasting, counselling and care have saved many babies from the industry and saved their parents the follow on horror that comes for so many after abortion. In America 24 abortion mills have closed. 40 Days has produced some astonishing conversions along the way. Abby Johnson is perhaps one of the most well known but she is one of many abortion workers who have turned away and are now shining a light on the utter vileness of what goes on in the industry. I think Dr. Bernard Nathanson must be praying very hard for us all still here.

All that is wonderful, but I think more fruit will come from this stance on Life. Once we start to show our horrible culture the importance of life, of every human life, no matter how small or how broken, a whole lot of things will change and they will change in science and medicine.

Once we accept that every human being is a person with inherent rights and dignity we will stop looking at ways to kill off those too young and those too sick and those too old, and we’ll find ways to care for, heal and save lives.

Money will go into funding real research to find answers for those who are suffering so much. Embryonic stem cell research will be shelved and the much more productive and promising research with umbilical and adult stem cells will reap the benefit making therapies happen much sooner.

Instead of pulling back from research into Alzheimer’s, drug companies will put more effort into finding ways to help those patients because each life is precious.

No one will be telling those of us with ME that Ampligen or Rituxin is too expensive, because all the money we spend on killing people will be there to give people life.

There will be no more letters from insurance companies telling people in Oregon that their treatment wont be paid for, but if they take the assisted suicide route that will be. It will not happen because the “obligation to die” dressed up as “right” to die rhetoric will be seen for what it is.

Instead of looking for new screening techniques to dx Downs Syndrome and get as many of those children killed off as possible (one spokesperson apparently talked about eradicating Downs, not through treatment but by killing the babies), there will be research into how to best treat and care for people with Downs. No more stories of parents being told their child must wait for heart surgery because the child should never have been born.

Once we stop deciding that some people aren’t people and other people aren’t worthy people, we’ll all be better people.

Forty Days for Life

It’s Lent and it’s the 40 Days for Life time of prayer and witness. Pray for all those who are able and willing to get out there and stand as a witness for the value of every human life, against those who want to decide who is life unworthy of life.

In your prayers don’t forget that it isn’t only babies being killed these days; the sick, frail and elderly are subject to these anti-life people.

I heard a man from America saying that in his area the prayer and witness had seen the miraculous victory of going from 8 abortion mills down to one that is already part-time. Mothers have been given the option of ultra sounds and care and have chosen life. (A recent study showed somthing like 80% of mothers claimed they had been coerced into abortion. They just need to know they have a real choice).

Don’t forget that your local crisis centre probably needs baby stuff, maternity stuff and money.

The Lord has given and the President wants to take it away.

update: wow! listen to this homily. H/T CMR

Living in the UK, where so many rights are being carefully chipped away, it could be tempting to shrug and walk away from the HHS mandate that Obama wants to impose on the Catholic Church in America. So what is he up to?

He wants to remove freedom of religion by forcing Catholic organisations to pay for the killing of other people’s unborn children and for the intrinsically evil contraception, which so often leads to the death of unborn children, as well as other horrible side effects which mainly effect women.

This happens to have coincided with a conversation I’ve had with people over the last couple of years about the UN Rights of the Child that America refused to sign under President Bush. Why, the question goes, would anyone not sign something on the rights of children? Why wouldn’t home educating families appeal to that legislation when Government tin pot tyrants try to remove our rights?

And the reason I have given is that Governments are not supposed to give out rights. They are supposed to protect them. As soon as those in power start thinking they have god like powers to hand out rights, they are one tiny step away from claiming those god like powers to remove them.

It strikes me as particularly obscene that Mr Obama wants to break a part of a woman’s body that isn’t broken and have unborn children disposed of, when only recently when looking up cardiac ultra sound I discovered that many American insurers wont cover that. I have received two cardiac ultra sounds on the NHS and although getting the results is a bit long winded, at least I have the option of the test. Perhaps, before removing the intrinsic rights of Catholics and attacking the Catholic church against the First Amendment, he could try forcing insurers to cover basics such as cardiac ultra sounds.

I am impressed with the way the American bishops and so many Catholics are standing firm, even in the face of those who have no problem at all with having other people’s intrinsic rights trampled. It is a deep shame that only the Catholic Church still holds to the sanctity of marriage and the intrinsic evil of contraception and abortion; but the more the results of ditching these truths become evident, the more others are going back to their roots.

Meanwhile we see Dawkins and Singer discussing the joys of infanticide and who it should be allowed after a child is born as well as before. I have thought for a long time that the only reason Dawkins has proved to be harmless so far, is that he has not yet achieved the power he lusts after. Even poor old Christopher Hitchens bulked at Dawkins sneaky death wish for others.

And two midwives in Scotland have been told their right not to help out in killing babies is not to be protected.

For those of us who are ill we are facing a “profession” wherein those who actually respect human life and rights are not allowed to practice and we will be at the mercy of the pro-killing ones.

As more news comes out of Oregon where the “right to die” lie is already uncovered as the “obligation to die” sick people are told their treatment wont be paid for by insurance, but if they want to take the “death” option that will be covered.

Last night we watched the DVD episode 8 of Band of Brothers where the American soldiers come across a death camp. The whole thing was gut wrenching in it’s horror. At the end a little explanation came up saying that around 4 million ethnic minorities and 3 million Jews were killed. But what is so often forgotten is that the first victims of Hitler’s “solution” were the sick and disabled. Tens of thousands of people were killed for no other reason than they were disabled in some way, and therefore “life unworthy of life.”  I think the reason this is rarely mentioned these days is because we are doing the same in a modern, cleaner way.

Lent is a time of fasting, abstinence and prayer and remember Jesus warned that some devils are only cast out with fasting. Get armed with those rosaries, chaplets, Bibles and fasting and doing without. We are in a battle here.

One of the 10% who survive.

As the 40 days for life continues…

(H/T catholicvote)

Some interesting facts about l*p dancers.

I’ve taken out the “a” to prevent unwanted searches finding this blog.

Anyway, I was listening to Ian Maxwell’s CathLab episode about the Theology of the Body when he mentioned some interesting research about how women give off certain pheramones during a normal cycle. It is pretty well known that women, in particular, give off chemicals that bond her to the man she has had sex with, but there is research that shows that a woman is more sexually attractive when she is fertile.

To test this theory some scientists in California got a group of lap dancers to make a record of tips their earned over two months. They found that the girls earned substantially more over the five days of their highest fertility and much less when not fertile. The girls who were using chemical contraception earned less throughtout the two months.

Take a look and listen to the whole podcast

I heard some interesting info about fertility a couple of weeks ago on some audio something or other. A doctor (obgyn I think) who commented about fertility in women pointed out that after age 35 a woman’s fertility level drops considerably – so leaving that baby ’til the career is set up is not such a good idea. She went on to say that after the age of 45 a woman’s chance of getting pregnant drops to 1%. The upshot is she advises wives to have babies when your body is ready to avoid the horrible heartache of infertility and the just as horrible fertility treatments- most of which have terrible success rates.